Escaping Fanon’s Blind Alley: A Critique of Rhodes Must Fall Campaign

Fanon’s revolution was high jacked and postponed on the eve of Africa’s independence. Africa is dependent and at the mercy of a ruthless global system. So what happened?! Now with hindsight we are able to observe a number of shortcomings with regards to Fanon’s revolution. Firstly, Fanon’s revolution was conceptualised at a national level at a time the colonial system unified at a global level. The conduit of this system at a global level was the then newly formed United Nations. Even though Fanon’s revolution had the potential of changing the nation it was incapable of changing the global environment. Thus, the scope of Fanon’s revolution was the first shortcoming, hence as soon as African states gained their independence they realised that the colonial structure evolved into something global.

Secondly, Fanon’s revolution never came into existence as it was highjacked and postponed on the eve of independence. What some scholars discard from their analysis of post-colonial thought is the following: independence was a negotiated settlement between the colonial African state and the colonial power. It was the colonial administrator of the colony who acted as the interlocutor between the colonial power and the African elite. African liberation fighters and intellectuals were co-opted into the negotiations between the colony and the colonial power. The aim of these negotiations was to ensure favourable conditions for the European beneficiary at the time. It was only once these conditions were met that the colonial power granted independence under the farce called democracy. A negotiated settlement thus can hardly be considered as a revolution. The result was that the African was held once more captive by the same global forces that were responsible for colonialism. 

Thirdly, the native intellectual nor Fanon anticipated the technological advances of the 20^th century. I noticed in the current scholarly work of African intellectuals they are not anticipating any possible technological changes in the future. This anticipation of future technological advances is important since technology played an essential part in the evolution of the colonial system. Technology allowed information to travel faster between colonial powers and for troops to be deployed in Africa at a much faster rate. The UN and its sister organisations such as the IMF and the World Bank became the conduit of this evolved system. Technological advances during this period helped to consolidate their position and they became the structures through which colonial powers could coerce and control African states. The aim was to continue the colonial status quo - where the African state is the producer of raw materials and cheap labour. In addition to this, the old civilising project continued under the banner of modernisation, development and transformation. The outcome was the continuation of the status quo and Fanon’s revolution never took off.

Thinking of the future and technology was a major shortcoming during Fanon’s time and it still resonates in today’s scholarly work. The consequence is that scholarly work is trapped in the past. What many scholars forget is that we live in a present that influences the future. Thus, we must look at the past, live in the present and shape the future. However, since we shape the future in the present we must be mindful of how this future might looks like. Important to note is that the present is a constant which makes it nearly impossible to predict the future. The tricky part is that the future is a constant which makes an end to it rather impossible. If there was an end to it the future would stop at some point. Even though we are not possible to arrive at an end we can shape the direction and reality of the future. This raises the question of how do we shape a future for the African which is without a colonial legacy.

The direction and reality Fanon had in mind can be found in his Wretched of the Earth, especially the chapter on national culture. The opening sentence of that chapter reads as follow: “Each generation must out of relative obscurity discover its mission, fulfil it, or betray it” (Fanon, 1963, p. 206). Many of you might know this quote by heart since many pseudo-revolutionaries use this nowadays. Many on these ‘revolutionaries’ never read the whole book and does not know the complexity of this opening sentence. The first time I read that sentence I wondered why he used the words ‘relative obscurity’ and ‘mission’ in the same sentence. After attending a number of seminars and reading much scholarly work on the post-colonial condition of Africa, I realised its significance.

Its significance is captured in a question: how do we think ourselves out of the post-colonial dilemma? The answer to this question will allow us to shape the direction and the reality of the African's future. First, we have to frame and contextualise this generation’s mission while keeping in mind that the future is a constant. We ideally want to shape a future reality where inequalities of our colonial past are no more. Secondly, for this to happen we have to restart Fanon’s revolution. A revolution by nature is violent but not all violence can be considered revolutions. It also thoroughly destroy all the remnants of the previous system's politically, socially and economically attributes. It is driven by the people and importantly it builds a new one from its ruins. However, even though it is violent and devastating it is more promising than transformation.

Transformation is similar to revolution but distinctively different. It also aims to change the system but at a slower pace, with minimal disruptions and it is driven by representatives of the elite on both side of the spectrum. More importantly it does not aim to destroy the old system but to rather alter the old system so that it largely continues the status quo. Moreover, transformation unlike a revolution is ongoing and has the potential of continuously altering itself in such a way it keeps the dominant social order in power. Here we see that transformation contradicts revolution. The dominant social force on both side of the spectrum will thus opt for transformation so that the system continues benefiting them. In a revolution they will be on the receiving end, hence elites of African states and scholars opt for transformation rather than a revolution as it secures their interest in the system.

An excellent example would be the Rhodes must fall campaign by UCT students and staff. In the words of the UCT SRC this is want they want to achieve with their campaign: “It is in the interest of transformation and nation building that our universities remove all colonial and apartheid symbolism and begin to reflect the South Africa we seek to build.” As you can see they opt for transformation, a transformation that will be negotiated by a selected few on both sides of the spectrum. It is also clear that they want to alter the system and is not interested in a completely new system. As I made it clear transformation does not has the potential to remove all the remnants of the old system. Thus, the Rhodes must fall campaign will not deliver on what the general populace at UCT has in mind. 

This brings an important view to the fore: what kind of mission do we want as the next generation of African scholars that will shape a future reality which is free from our colonial legacy.  Where do we assist? One thing is none negotiable: it has to a be a revolutionary mission. To put is more forcefully: the mission can only exist in a revolutionary project as it will lose its value in transformational project. We need a need a new system and not an altered system that will largely continue the status quo. This is why the Rhodes must fall campaign is a misguided struggle without any real revolutionary substance and is out of touch with the realities African students are facing. Instead of storming the Bastille (reference to the French Revolution) and overthrowing the system, they opted for meek, watered down struggle to stay relevant in a post-apartheid South Africa. Instead of storming the institution they stormed a statue, a symbol. Their struggle is so short sighted that they do not realise that once the statue comes down their struggle is over. This show how out of touch they are with the realities of the current generation’s struggle and do not see that dawn is breaking. They and many other pseudo-intellectuals are stuck in Fanon’s blind alley and is incapable of finding resonance in Keita Fodeba’s poem African Dawn:

“Dawn was breaking—dawn, the fight between night and day. But the night was exhausted and could fight no more, and slowly died. A few rays of the sun, the forerunners of this victory of the day, still hovered on the horizon, pale and timid, while the last stars gently glided under the mass of clouds, crimson like the blooming flamboyant flowers.”

They are so out of touch with our reality that they do not see dawn breaking. Ask the students of Wits, UKZN, CPUT and UWC. They have become so stuck in the rhetoric of the day that they use transformation, struggle and revolution interchangeably. They have become the petty bourgeoisie – the gate keepers of the system. They are incapable of seeing that our struggle is a global struggle and that transformation would not help us overcoming the burden of our colonial past. They are incapable of seeing that even if we transform the nation, the nation would be held captive by the global structure and will have to conform to the status quo once more. The only thing that will get us out of this situation is revolutionary thought and action. Let us learn from the past, live in the present and shape a future reality that is without a colonial legacy.  

Keep dreaming and working

If you have a dream protect it from all the negative people in your life. They are so negative because their insecurities and broken dreams are giving them nightmares when they look at you and when they look in the mirror. You failed a couple of times, SO WHAT! You made a couple of mistakes, SO WHAT! The only thing that matters is that you keep trying and pushing to make your dream a reality.

Nobody said or made promises that it is going to be easy, but surely it will be worth it. If they say negative things towards your dreams and aspirations, please tell them they have no right to comment on yours if theirs are in pieces or stagnant.

I came to realise that people who are working on their dreams are generally positive and supportive towards others’ dreams. They help others in achieving theirs. On the contrary, I came to realise that negative people (in most cases it are people very close to you) either gave up theirs or they fear yours might end up like theirs.

This is one of the biggest mistakes of most friends, family and parents. You share an idea or dream with them and the first words they utter are: ‘it will not work.’ This is the last thing you want to hear especially since you already know the risks; and when these words are uttered it shatters the last bit of confidence you had into a million pieces. What parents, family, guardians and spouses do not realise is that they are systematically sabotaging the future of their children, family members and spouses. A little bit of positivity is all the person needs to get him or her going.

I remember back in 2006 when I had to make a decision whether I must register the next year or not, I needed only two people’s positive reactions to get me into action. There were those who were negative but I needed the confirmation of two people. The first was my Grandmother and the second was Ant Lenie.

Of the two I expected my Grandmother to be the most critical but when I mentioned it to her, her first and only words on the subject were: my kind gaan studeer (my child go study). It was exactly the same response I got from Ant Lenie, and so I registered in 2007 and since then graduated thrice.

You really do not help anyone by being negative if they came to you with their dreams. You must be flattered because that person trusts you! You have two choices either say nothing or motivate that person. If you decide to motivate and support that person, please make sure they answer these questions to themselves before they start their dreams.

The first is why the person wants to do it? It is important the person answer this question because it will keep the person going when they are experiencing difficulties. The second is how would it add value to his or her life? Not all value is monetary, some are intrinsic. Thus make sure the person knows what he or she will be getting from the dream because that will keep them going. Finally, ask the person whether he or she is willing to take the sacrifices that come with pursuing the dream. Pursuing any dream is not easy and there will come days when you feel like giving up. Make sure the person understand this.

These questions are merely a guide but a good way of encouraging someone to start his or her dream. Remember some people were laughed at when they said they want to go to the moon, build an aeroplane, a telephone, a car, etc. Your best response to negativity must be success. 

Kerfees in Namakwaland

Kerfees in Namakwaland is ‘n wonderlike tyd en al het ons nie baie nie laat dit ons nie afsit om ‘n heerlike tyd te he nie. Die musiek, die mense, die braai vleis en die kinders wat lag is van die beste herinneringe wat ek koester. Soos ‘n mens ouer word verloor jy dinge in die lewe, eers is dit die mense om jou,  later is dit jou drome een vir een en eendag as jy jouk om kry is dit Kersfees. Dit is ‘n moeilike werklikheid wat ons as mens moet aanvaar.

Ek skryf hierdie stuk met die musiek van Allou April in die agtergrond terwyl ek omring is met geboue en die gejaag na wind. Soos die Prediker gese het, is al ons drome en suksesse aan die einde van jou leeftyd ‘n gejaag na wind. Alles waar voor jy so hard gewerk het kom tot niks. Niks.

So, terwyl ek besig is met my gejaag na wind verlang ek na die mense van Namakwaland – my oorlede Ouma en Oupa, my oorlede vriend Neels (Oor wie ek nie gehuil kan kry nie. Die huil sit hier binne in my maar dit is moeilik om uit te kom. As dit net wil uitkom sal ek beter voel maar nou wil dit nie.), my vriende wat oor die jare my famlie geword het en my familie.

Die beste en die laaste keer wat ons as familie bymekaar gewees het ‘n Kersfees was in 2005. Die jaar wat by die army klaar gemaak het. Dit het spontaan gebeur. Eers het my een Antie laat weet sy kom en toe my een oom (die ander een was by die huis) en op Kersfees het my ander Antie kom kuier. Al hoewel twee van my Ouma en Oupa se kinders nie daar was nie het dit nie saak gemaak nie.

Ek het lang arm musiek op my laptop gehad wat ek op ‘n CD gesit het en wat ons in die DVD klaar gespeel het. Ek het gedans – ons almal het gedans. Ek het die voorreg gehad om saam met my Ouma te dans. Dit was toe sy nog sterk was want die jare daarna het sy al agteruit gegaan tot sy ‘n skaduwee van haarself was. Ons het gemmerbier gedrink en koek geeet. Vleis geeet.

Wat ‘n tyd.

Vandag dink ek daaraan en verlang na my wereld en sy mense. Waar vandaan ek kom is nou wel droog en kaal in die sommer maar die mense is gasvry en te gemoedkommend; wat ‘n eindproduk van swaarkry is. Is net wanneer jy regtig swaar gekry het of rerig swaarkry dat jy so gasvry en mededeelsaam kan wees sonder voorgee. Mense kan nou maar wat se van ons wereld en sy mense maar nie een kan se ons is suinig en vrekkig nie. Ons almal weet hoe om suiker tot more te vra.

Ons mense het ook hulle eie soorte trots, ‘n trots wat jy nie uit hulle sal kry nie. En dit verskil van hoogmoed. ‘n Trots wat hulle ook partykeer in stilte sal laat vergaan net sodat jy nie hulle menslikheid van hulle kan neem nie. Daardie trots is wat hulle nog mens hou al kry hulle hoe swaar. En dit is die trots wat in my en enige ander kind van die Namakwaland is. Jy kan probeer om oor ons te loop en jy kan dit miskien regkry maar my menslikheid sal agterbly al beteken dit my eie ondergaan. Kruip is vir enige mens swaar maar nog swaarder vir iemand van Namakwaland.

Maar genoeg van die trots en die swaarkry en terug na Kersfees in Namakwaland.

Een van die dinge wat my altyd nostalgies maak is die reuk van vuur in die skemer en die langarm musiek wat so eie aan ons mense is. Die tipe musiek wat dit ontmoontlik vir jou maak om stil te sit. Of jy nou kan dans of nie maar dans sal jy – al is dit net voutjies klop. Gee vir Pieter Pillie en Oorlede Ant Grietjie ‘n kitaar en jy het ‘n party wat die son sal laat op kom.

En terwyl Allou se Madiba’s Jive my terug bring na die werklikheid toe, laat die herinneringe van Kersfees in Namakwaland my met ‘n snaakse tevredenheid.

Geseende Kersfees.

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Toe gewy aan my vriend Cornelius Ovies, vriende en familie.

Enhancing Humanities in Africa

It seems as Humanities across the globe is in a crisis. Several reports contribute this crisis to a decrease in funding, a declining number of students who enrol for Humanities and a declining number of graduates who find a job after they graduated in Humanities (Delany, 2013; Levitz & Belkin, 2013 and Tworek, 2013).

A recent study by the Academy of Science of South Africa echoes some of the global trends. One of the key findings, in their report titled Consensus Study on the Future of the Humanities in South Africa, indicates that humanities is a state of intellectual stagnation and has been in this moribund condition for the past 15 years. A report commissioned by the Department of Higher Education called the Charter for Humanities and Social Sciences had similar findings. The difference between the two was that the Charter was institutionalised as the National Institute for Humanities and Social Sciences and has to address the challenges Humanities in South Africa are facing. Even though these reports are only based on the state of Humanities in South Africa we may infer that this is most likely the case in the rest of Africa.

However, the reality is Humanities in Africa inherited a particular history of privilege and subjection at independence and since then we have been grappling with it, and it seems as we are stuck. These reports opened a debate in South Africa and other parts of Africa as to what is the way forward for Humanities in Africa.

Pillay (05 April 2013, Mail & Guardian) argues that “we should lead the critique of the humanities and social sciences we have inherited by pointing to its limitation.” Leading the critique would mean we are taking responsibility for a ‘new’ Humanities going forward. In addition to this, Premesh Lalu in an article in the Mail & Guardian encourages African scholars to think ahead and out of the deadlock (Lalu, 07 June 2014, Mail and Guardian). I have to agree as I found that the majority of scholarly work in Africa is stuck in the past and disregard the present and the future. There are two things we have to bear in mind in this debate: we cannot change the past and we live in the present. I am not disputing the importance of the past but we have the tendency of disregarding the present and the future in scholarly work.

Like many other disciplines, Humanities also operates in the present. Our reality is that the present is materialistic and technologically driven society. Technological advances shapes a future which is changing so rapidly that even the most progressive technologically driven disciplines find it hard to keep up. This can be either a threat or an opportunity. If we see it as an opportunity a new generation of Humanities students has to be innovative, contemporary and at the fore front of societal change. Thus, we must anticipate changes and approach it progressively. However, this can only be possible if we are clear of the future we want for Humanities in Africa.

So what is our point of departure?

Mahmood Mamdani of the Makerere Institute for Social Research (MISR) recently asked the question how do we think the world from Africa? In the famous Hollywood movie ‘Blood Diamond’ the mentor of the protagonist said to him TIA which means ‘this is Africa.’ He referred to the main stream Western view of Africa which is seen as violent, corrupt and exotic. Since then a new movement amongst young African musicians developed which is called TINA which stands for ‘this is new Africa’. This movement decided to reclaim African music and expose it to world. They are not standing back for any of their Western counterparts and have some of the most popular videos on Youtube. It is time for Humanities in Africa to reclaim their place in world but we can only do this if we know what our point of departure is and only then we are able to think the world from Africa.

Race and the ‘politics of beauty’ – A male’s view

I recently paged through the latest edition of Men’s Health SA and it struck me how the majority of cover models tend to be white.

I decided to count all the black men in the December 2014 edition and I found 27 different black men of which 17 are models; the other ten appear in DSTV and Telkom adverts. I then counted all the white models and I found 47 white men. This total would have been more if I included the DSTV and Telkom adverts.

More disturbing was the under representation of black women in this edition. I counted 3 black women compared to the 24 white women. More interesting was how these women were portrayed. Firstly, the 3 black women shared the spotlight other white women. Secondly, white women were portrayed as sexually desirable which ranged from the girl next door to models who suggestive press against men in jeans and libido enhancing adverts.

I did not stop there, I also looked at the cartoons in the Magazine and I found that it is evidently racialized and there is a clear underrepresentation of black people.

So what does this say?

Firstly, this edition of Men’s Health is targeting white men and this is evident from the underrepresentation of black people.

Secondly, the underrepresentation of black people in Men’s Health says something about how Men’s Health sees and portrays beauty in the cosmetic industry. This is obvious by how they portrayed intimate relationships (relationships between men and women). Their portrayal reinforces the apartheid objective[1] which was that white people must date and marry white people and black people must date and marry black people. Through this they do not encourage interracial relationships. The evidence is their lack of portraying black women as sexually attractive beings. They clearly work from the assumption that white men would not be interested in black women. Thus, they do not encourage interracial relationships.

I see this as a ‘politics of beauty.’ For me the ‘politics of beauty’ is where the dominant social force reinforces or enforces their notion of beauty through popular media such the television, radio, print media and social media.

Fanon speak about this phenomenon in length in Black Skin, White Masks and it worth mention here briefly. Black women in particular are guilty for reinforcing the mainstream portrayal of beauty. Fanon speaks about the whitening process black women undergo to become desirable for white men and to match the standards of what white women consider as beauty. Fanon point out how black women will go through extreme measures such as skin bleaching and hair straightening to become more like white women.

This is still the case today. In South Africa there is currently a ‘yellow bone’ trend going on amongst ‘black’ women[2]. If you are considered to be a ‘yellow bone’ you automatically moved up the beauty hierarchy in the ‘black’ society. The same trend is visible amongst ‘coloured’ women. The lighter you are in complexion the further you move up the beauty ladder in the ‘coloured’ society. Some ‘coloured’ women do not even want to be in the sun for 10 min because they do want to ‘become black.’ Another trend is weaves and hair straightening products amongst ‘black’ and ‘coloured’ women.

However, we black men are not saints because we let our inferiority complex cloud our notions of beauty. This is evident by the gender of the male in interracial relationships. My observation is that in the majority of black and white interracial relationships the male is white and the female is black. The minority of cases are the other way around.

Once again let’s use Fanon’s Black Skin, White Masks to make sense of this. Fanon argued that for the black man to see himself of worthy dating a white woman he will first try and overcome his material limitations so that it equals that of his male white counterpart. Only once this is achieved he will develop a sense of self-worth to approach a white woman. The reality however, especially in a society like ours it is hard for a black man to equal the resources of their white male counterparts. Thus, white women stay goddesses which mere mortal beings such as black men can only dream of and since they dream of white women they encourage black women to become white so that their fantasies become a reality even if it is only in their dreams.

I cannot but conclude that in this particular case Men’s Health’s portrayal of beauty is racialized and reinforces the racist notion that white people are more beautiful than black people. Their aim, intentionally or unintentionally, is to maintain the status quo in a society that was torn apart by racism. However, this notion is also reinforced by black people’s inferiority complex towards white people.

This left me with something to ponder: can you consider this kind of politics as racism especially since it has the same end in mind as the racist project which started in the previous century.

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[1] For those of you who do not know to what I am referring to it time you take a history lesson on the effects of the Immorality Act.

[2] Where I use inverted commas to describe races I refer specifically to the racial classification of the groups of people in South Africa. 

100 Days Without Sugar Challenge

For those of you who are interested in how my 100 days without sugar challenge work this is how the challenge work. First, stop adding processed sugar to all your beverages. Secondly, stop all soft drinks. If want to drink a soft drink rather a sugar free one (do this occasionally as a reward). Thirdly, stop drinking all juices whether it is '100 percent' fruit juice. Companies add sugar to all juices to enhance the taste and most juices have more sugar than soft drinks.

Fourthly, stop using all sauces such a tomato sauce or chutney because all of it have huge amounts of sugar in it. Fifthly, stop all cakes, cookies, biscuits, muffins, etc because they also have huge amounts of sugar in it. Homemade is worst because you cannot monitor how much sugar they put in it.

Six, stop all alcohol intake because it also have massive amounts of sugar in it. Seven, stop the intake of dried fruit you buy from shops because it is soaked in sugar to make it more tasty. Finally, all sweets (chocolates and energy bars included) is a no no.

Additionally, please do not replace sugar with honey because it is literally the same thing. Rather, increase your fruit intake. Also, you have to know that even to essentials such as milk and bread companies add sugar to enhance the taste. If you buy bread buy brown bread as it contains lesser sugar and is more nutritional than white bread. Please note that 3 slices of bread equals one teaspoon of sugar.

Apart from this, please check your the nutritional information at the back of all processed food you buy in store. Generally, 5g of sugar equals a teaspoon of sugar. Thus, if you take a Jungle Oats Lite energy bar you will notice that it contains 2.8g of sugar for a single serving suggestion (40g which is one bar) which is almost half spoon of sugar.

I am more than halfway through my challenge and I totally agree with those who say fat does not make you fat, but rather sugar makes you fat. I almost have no body fat left. To speed up your fat loss I would advice you supplement the challenge with an exercise plan. However, please note I am no physician nor a nutritional expert and I am just someone who did research on what causes fat and test it out myself.

This is my promise to you if you follow this challenge for at least 50 days you will lose so much body fat that people who saw a a long time ago will not recognize you.

Women are no Saints

Women are as equally bad and evil as men. Mamdani (2001) in his book on the Rwandan genocide ask a very important question: Was the perpetrators of the genocide only males?  He found that women played an active role in pointing out potential victims and they were standing by supporting and encouraging their male counterparts to kill. This made women equally the perpetrators of the Rwandan genocide.

We must ask that same question when we want to determine the gender of the perpetrators of slavery, colonialism and apartheid. In all these cases you will find that women must be attributed equal perpetrator status as that of their male counterparts. 

If you read the autobiography of Frederick Douglas and if you read James Walvin’s book titled ‘The trader, the Owner and the Slave’ you will soon realise that women during slavery were sometimes crueller than male counterparts. In Frederick Douglas’ book he explains how a slave owner’s wife asked one of her ‘white’ sons to beat up their mulatto brother because she hated the slave girl by who her husband had the child.

Karel Schoeman in his book ‘Kinders van die Kompanjie’ explains how Dutch women were against soldiers and vryburgers taking Khoi women as wives. The Dutch women of the Cape Colony considered the Khoi women as barbarians and thus it would have been a sin if any of the men married any of the Khoi women. The children that were born from these relationships (between Khoi women and Dutch men) were rejected by the Khoi and by the Dutch women and they were raised as servants in the homes of their fathers. 

The attitude of ‘white’ women during apartheid was no different than that of the ‘white’ males. The ‘white’ women like in the case of the Rwandan genocide supported apartheid openly even though they did not commit the physical atrocities. Thus, I cannot help but feel a sense of sympathy for ‘white’ males because today when you talk about the atrocities of apartheid, colonialism and slavery you imagine a ‘white’ male with a whip or a gun. Feminists strategically removed themselves from the atrocities of the past by painting them also as victims of a ‘white’ male dominated world. However, this is one of the biggest fallacies or dogma modern day feminists follow. History shows that women at times were also active participants in the atrocities of the past like for example Queen Isabella I of Castile who violently converted Jews and Muslim, and funded Christopher Columbus’ expedition to the Caribbean. An inconvenient truth feminists would like to hide is that women were staunch supporters of slavery, colonialism and apartheid, and at times they were active participants. 

I personally have been more abused by women than men. When I say abuse I refer to both physically and emotional abuse, of which I regard emotional abuse as the most destructive of all. All men who abused me or tried to abuse me did it through physically means which allowed me to fight back once I was strong enough. However, being abused through psychological means, if it starts at a very young age, shatters you self-esteem which fills you with self-doubt. Doubting yourself holds you back and literally over time mentally enslaves you. My experience is that women are masters in abusing men emotionally.

Part of my life I grew up in a monastery and the nuns used to employ both emotional and physical abuse. If we were naughty we were made out to be sinners (emotional abuse) and had to kneel on gravel for long periods of times (physical abuse).  Luckily I only stayed there for two years of which I am grateful because if I stayed there for longer I do not think I would have recovered, like many others. This is one of just the many incidences of abuse I experienced at the hands of women.

After reading this I hope men would start a process of de-demonising themselves and speak out against the abuse they experience at the hands of women. I know it is hard for any men to speak out against abuse because it is harmful to their egos. However, if this demonising of men continues there will be any egos to protect.